MancheKid86 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 http://www.jeepforum.com/forum/f11/9...nions-1149721/ Original Post '96 Jeep Cherokee: Need OpinionsSo, my boyfriend bought a '96 Cherokee (XJ) SE, for way too much, like around $3,000. It broke down and he has put another $2,500 in it and totally rebuilt the engine and did a lot of after market work on it. He has and will do all the labor himself, he refuses to pay for labor. Now, he finds out that the motor needs to be taken back out and fixed again and is looking at another $700. I said he should just sell it and wipe his hands clean, he says he won't make enough. Firstly, what is your guys' opinion on what he should do? Secondly, how much do you think he could make parting it versus just the whole car as is? Thanks for your guys' opinions! and the first reply: You want my opinion? Ok… Shut the hell up. You’re not his wife. You’re not paying for the repairs. It’s absolutely none of your business what he does with his Jeep or his money. I know your type well… first it’s “Sell the Jeep because it’s costing too much money.” Then it’s “No, you can’t go spend the weekend with your buddies because I need you to take me shopping.” Then it’s “Oh gee, honey… I’m pregnant. Gosh, I have no idea how that happened.” You’re a DreamKiller. You kill a guy’s dreams, take away his future, tie him down with a fat mortgage and too many babies, and turn him into just another miserable guy wondering, “How the hell did I get here?” Do you really want to help him? Here’s what you do… go to your local library (it’s a big building with books inside) and check out a couple of books on rebuilding engines. Read them, over and over, until YOU understand what needs to be done. Then help him get that engine out and rebuild it. Tie your hair back in a ponytail, put on some old jeans and get your hands dirty. Hand him wrenches, hold the light, pull the wire connectors apart, help him get the hood off… help him with anything he needs. When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or dinner. Fix him coffee, hot chocolate, whatever he wants. (But NO beer. Beer is for when the job is done.) Then when the day is over and you’re both exhausted from working on the engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub his back, wash his hair, rinse him off, and dry him with fluffy towels still hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off. Then get up the next day and do it all over again. Make him realize that rebuilding an engine is a slow and methodical process. Make him realize that every step should be regarded as surgery; every step must be perfect… perfect torque, perfect fit, perfectly clean. If you run into a step that you just can’t figure out, ask for help from someone who knows what he’s doing. Are you cute? Put on a low-cut top, show some cleavage and go (by yourself) to the local Jeep shop, and explain to the guys that you are helping your boyfriend to rebuild his engine and neither of you can figure out this one little step, and do they have any advice… Think it won’t work? Think again. We guys love to help cute girls, even if they have a boyfriend. (Hey, maybe you’ve got a sister, or girlfriend…) But absolutely DO NOT whine or complain. Do not say a single negative thing. Not a single “Oooooo, I broke a nail.” If you break a nail, or cut your finger, or bang a knuckle, you just shut up and DEAL WITH IT. You should be a hopelessly optomistic, never-say-die cheerleader, encouraging him every step of the way. That’s my opinion. that guy just seriously raised the bar on what I'm going to require from a girlfriend nuff said Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geonovast Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 Well that was one of the most chauvinistic pieces of crap I've ever read. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeepcoMJ Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 no, that's the truth. Correy, I broke off the most serious relationship I've ever had (about to be engaged) because she was a dream-killer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ejndssn Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :rotfl2: so i read this to my wife and before i began i said to her close your eyes and picture this. after the tears from :rotfl2: she agreed that it was chauvinistic and continued :rotfl2: casued it was funny. she did make a few suggestions and recommed boys will be boys let them have there toys, and that she should provide some assistance if she can, either by keeping him focus on the task at hand and no :cheers: until the job is done. :rotf: :clapping: :cheers: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SW86 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :rotf: :shake: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimoshel Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 When a man has a good woman beside him, he can whip the world. Getting a Jeep going would be nothing. Some of the most enjoyable and memorable moments of my life is memories of the wife getting her hands dirty and Jeepin the boonies with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Herc Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :agree: Just read the whole post, all four pages! Is it a little harsh?? a bit yeah, but several good points. -Be supportive -get in there and help if you can -encourage their work list goes on..... Are there women out there who would do what is in that post?? maybe a couple, but they would most likely have been raised around vehicles and worked on them as well. Most of us are looking for somone who will at least understand(maybe) our obsession/dedication or whatever you want ot call it, and at least support our decisions and help us however they can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freakjeep93 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 i laughed through the whole thread lol. harsh but there are good points there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
btm24 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :cheers: Brandon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terrawombat Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 The guy had the right idea, but came off way too pompous. Scrub his back, wash his hair, wash him off? Is the BF a quadriplegic? My GF has only stepped foot in my shop once and it was to see it for the first time. She doesn't have much interest in what I do down there, but would be willing to help if I asked, but I never do. I've come to accept it and I've often thought of how it would be if I had a GF that was always there with me, helping me wrench on stuff. I feel like her and I would get under each others skin and it would be TOO much time spent together. Plus, by her not helping me out all the time it gives me a great excuse to cop out of going to her clothes/shoe buying escapades. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
camjeep3 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :agree: Just read the whole post, all four pages! Is it a little harsh?? a bit yeah, but several good points. -Be supportive -get in there and help if you can -encourage their work list goes on..... Are there women out there who would do what is in that post?? maybe a couple, but they would most likely have been raised around vehicles and worked on them as well. Most of us are looking for somone who will at least understand(maybe) our obsession/dedication or whatever you want ot call it, and at least support our decisions and help us however they can. very good points. the real question is will the guy that posted that over on JF feel the same way when it comes to her interests? id say doubtful. it goes both ways Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Akula69 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 The guy had the right idea, but came off way too pompous. Scrub his back, wash his hair, wash him off? Is the BF a quadriplegic? My GF has only stepped foot in my shop once and it was to see it for the first time. She doesn't have much interest in what I do down there, but would be willing to help if I asked, but I never do. I've come to accept it and I've often thought of how it would be if I had a GF that was always there with me, helping me wrench on stuff. I feel like her and I would get under each others skin and it would be TOO much time spent together. Plus, by her not helping me out all the time it gives me a great excuse to cop out of going to her clothes/shoe buying escapades. :agree: This is someone who understands. After you have been with someone long enough they will let you do your thing and support your interests. Expecting a brand-new (or almost new) GF to bend over and kiss your (ahem) obsession will probably leave you lonely when the wrenching is done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeepcoMJ Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 True enough but being angry cause your girl wants you to sell everything isn't a good thing either. Maybe she should then be told or forced to sell her shoes... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
!tsAComancheTh!ng Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 :agree: I've always had an interest in being a "grease monkey". Sometimes i would get frustrated bc the guys are always in the shop but finally i just said enough with that i'm getting in to help too.. Its been wayyy easier to be in there then complain :) I may not know what anything is but if u give me a tool and tell me where and how to do it, it still gives fun enjoyable experiances. ReAding this made me realize how much respect i get for doing it the way it should be done lol :clapping: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
!tsAComancheTh!ng Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 http://www.jeepforum.com/forum/f11/9...nions-1149721/ Original Post '96 Jeep Cherokee: Need OpinionsSo, my boyfriend bought a '96 Cherokee (XJ) SE, for way too much, like around $3,000. It broke down and he has put another $2,500 in it and totally rebuilt the engine and did a lot of after market work on it. He has and will do all the labor himself, he refuses to pay for labor. Now, he finds out that the motor needs to be taken back out and fixed again and is looking at another $700. I said he should just sell it and wipe his hands clean, he says he won't make enough. Firstly, what is your guys' opinion on what he should do? Secondly, how much do you think he could make parting it versus just the whole car as is? Thanks for your guys' opinions! and the first reply: You want my opinion? Ok… Shut the hell up. You’re not his wife. You’re not paying for the repairs. It’s absolutely none of your business what he does with his Jeep or his money. I know your type well… first it’s “Sell the Jeep because it’s costing too much money.” Then it’s “No, you can’t go spend the weekend with your buddies because I need you to take me shopping.” Then it’s “Oh gee, honey… I’m pregnant. Gosh, I have no idea how that happened.” You’re a DreamKiller. You kill a guy’s dreams, take away his future, tie him down with a fat mortgage and too many babies, and turn him into just another miserable guy wondering, “How the hell did I get here?” Do you really want to help him? Here’s what you do… go to your local library (it’s a big building with books inside) and check out a couple of books on rebuilding engines. Read them, over and over, until YOU understand what needs to be done. Then help him get that engine out and rebuild it. Tie your hair back in a ponytail, put on some old jeans and get your hands dirty. Hand him wrenches, hold the light, pull the wire connectors apart, help him get the hood off… help him with anything he needs. When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or dinner. Fix him coffee, hot chocolate, whatever he wants. (But NO beer. Beer is for when the job is done.) Then when the day is over and you’re both exhausted from working on the engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub his back, wash his hair, rinse him off, and dry him with fluffy towels still hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off. Then get up the next day and do it all over again. Make him realize that rebuilding an engine is a slow and methodical process. Make him realize that every step should be regarded as surgery; every step must be perfect… perfect torque, perfect fit, perfectly clean. If you run into a step that you just can’t figure out, ask for help from someone who knows what he’s doing. Are you cute? Put on a low-cut top, show some cleavage and go (by yourself) to the local Jeep shop, and explain to the guys that you are helping your boyfriend to rebuild his engine and neither of you can figure out this one little step, and do they have any advice… Think it won’t work? Think again. We guys love to help cute girls, even if they have a boyfriend. (Hey, maybe you’ve got a sister, or girlfriend…) But absolutely DO NOT whine or complain. Do not say a single negative thing. Not a single “Oooooo, I broke a nail.” If you break a nail, or cut your finger, or bang a knuckle, you just shut up and DEAL WITH IT. You should be a hopelessly optomistic, never-say-die cheerleader, encouraging him every step of the way. That’s my opinion. that guy just seriously raised the bar on what I'm going to require from a girlfriend nuff said Congrates :) I love the advice :) :cheers: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terrawombat Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 True enough but being angry cause your girl wants you to sell everything isn't a good thing either. Maybe she should then be told or forced to sell her shoes... When my GF first started dating me and eventually realized I buy at least 3-4 vehicles per year, she became concerned that I was spending my money in a wasteful manner and brought it up several times that I ought to settle down and budget my money better. I guess the thought of buying multiple car/trucks - large items that are often perceived as expensive is what set off a red flag for her. At the time, it was unknown to her the condition and price I was paying for said vehicles (typically $500 or less). Instead of arguing with her about it, I asked her to compile a list of shoes she had bought last year and the price for each and total that up and I would do the same for my cars/trucks. The difference between her list and my list was about $300 (I spent a little more). Once I put it into THAT perspective, she stopped questioning my car/truck buying habit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjeff87 Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 , I asked her to compile a list of shoes she had bought last year and the price for each and total that up and I would do the same for my cars/trucks. The difference between her list and my list was about $300 (I spent a little more). Once I put it into THAT perspective, she stopped questioning my car/truck buying habit. pwned :cheers: Nicely played. I've bought entire vehicles for less than my missus has paid for certain pairs of shoes. And I'm not kidding, either. Jeff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terrawombat Posted January 7, 2011 Share Posted January 7, 2011 pwned :cheers: Nicely played. I've bought entire vehicles for less than my missus has paid for certain pairs of shoes. And I'm not kidding, either. Jeff Very believable. My GF bought a nice pair of genuine leather cowgirl boots for something like $275, which was $75 more than I paid for one of the vehicles on my list. It would have been a lot more skewed had she not bought those. They'll probably outlast any one of my vehicles, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loi Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 the only guys ive ever known to defend women were fairly oblivious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ejndssn Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 the only guys ive ever known to defend women were fairly oblivious. :huh???: your not comming through clearly widget "line from the great mouse detective" :cheers: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 For the win: Here’s what you do… go to your local library (it’s a big building with books inside) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimoshel Posted January 8, 2011 Share Posted January 8, 2011 Here’s what you do… go to your local library (it’s a big building with books inside) But I don't need a book. All my table legs are even. :thwak: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cody4359 Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 i love that guys response, just plain awsome! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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