Control your add-on relay (coil side) by using the ORN wire from the fuel pump relay (FPR_87). Do not cut this wire, but instead "T" into it. This will allow your add-on relay to act, function as the factory FPR. That is, the external fuel pump will prime during KEY_ON for 2-3 seconds and remain ON during CRANK, then RUN.
Yes, ORN/BLK must be a complete circuit, as mentioned above.