speed_racer Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 Ok, I'm in a bit of a pickle... and would like some insight on how you guys might walk through this.... No, I don't want to hear your BS ... lets get real for 10 seconds here guys.. and please try to understand... My best friend is being cheated on. Problem is, this person became my best friend because I knew his girlfriend... And b/c I "knew her first" she always feels SOOO compelled to drop lines like "I'm gonna' "freakin"' leave his @$$" and so forth... She's admitted to me she's cheated... "crap", she's even tried to hook up with one of my other buddies while my friend was in my guest bedroom passed out from partying... it's bad... Well, This has been eating at me ever since I really knew for sure what was going on.. so about 2 weeks back I asked him how theyd been... to segue into telling him that she said to me, verbatim " I'm gonna leave his @$$"... But he's so 'blinded by "love"' that he said she mustve just been mad, and that they did get into a big argument a few days after that, but everythings fine.... This allowed me to forget about it momentarily, hoping they had fixed their own problems... Last weekend my friend and I went on a fishing trip... and his girl stayed home.. hung out with some of her girlfriends.. did their hair.. yada yadas..... I get a call today from one of the girls she hung out with and theyre freaking b/c my buddies girl also admitted to HER that she cheats, OFTEN, and that she even had a set date, August 4th, to leave him... I feel like Ive done my very closest friend a total disservice by not telling him up to this point.. but its so hard when he constantly says "shes the greatest thing in my life" "idk what id do without her" and so on.... I even started planting the seed that if they broke up he could move into my spare bedroom.. just so he wouldnt make a tainted decision just because she's half of the reason they have a roof over their heads... What do i do? How do I bring it up? Its killing me.. and I can't bear not saying anything any longer.... Thanks in advance guys.. sorry this is long.. but I could go on and on... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockhardzj Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 Does your phone have a record message feature? You can record her when she talks to you (face to face), and then whip out the message with your buddy, and let him hear it. Also, if he's the "last called" contact, or he's on speed dial, call him with your cell phone in your pocket, but don't talk to him, just keep talking to her, face to face, no speaker phone, your voice will be loud enough for him to hear, but he won't be so loud that she will hear him on the phone. On another note, you can always set her up on a date with your other buddy, with a known time/place confirmation from him, and then take buddy #1 over there, so he gets to witness her trying to kiss/get carried away with buddy #2. There's always the "SMACK-A-B1TCH" option, knock some sense into her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockhardzj Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 Oh, and I'll be in the Ft. Myers area next weekend. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speed_racer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Share Posted July 17, 2007 Yeah, unfortunately.. those plans won't work for this specific situation... But I'm glad youre on the same page as me.. he has to know.. no matter what.. Also, PM sent about your trip Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigd44889 Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 good luck there is no good answer if u tell him and he don't beleve u u lost a freind if u set her up to get cought he may end up in jail for fighting iv'e been through both your best bet would be stay out of it and be there for him when he falls and never tell anyone u know anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
48wilys Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 good luck there is no good answer if u tell him and he don't beleve u u lost a freind if u set her up to get cought he may end up in jail for fighting iv'e been through both your best bet would be stay out of it and be there for him when he falls and never tell anyone u know anything I agree. You are in a no win situation. Stay away from it, and just be there when your buddy needs you for support Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockhardzj Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 They do have a point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drahcir495 Posted July 17, 2007 Share Posted July 17, 2007 good luck there is no good answer if u tell him and he don't beleve u u lost a freind if u set her up to get cought he may end up in jail for fighting iv'e been through both your best bet would be stay out of it and be there for him when he falls and never tell anyone u know anything I agree. You are in a no win situation. Stay away from it, and just be there when your buddy needs you for support X3. I have to believe, deep down, your buddy knows. Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pingpong Posted July 18, 2007 Share Posted July 18, 2007 You need to distance yourself from her. Take your buddy to the Go Go bar and have a good time. Hook him up with another woman. Stay away from chica loca cause she can ruin your friendship by her manipulative ways Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeeperjohnfromPA Posted July 18, 2007 Share Posted July 18, 2007 My own two cents on this, GOOD friends are hard to find. REAL friends are even harder to find. If this Guy REALY is a GOOD friend, Tell him flat out, and tell him everything you know. He might not believe you at first, he might hate you for it. BUT if he is a REAL GOOD friend, you owe it to him. And if He is a REAL GOOD friend, sooner or later he'll come to his senses and realize that you were on his side. and you'll be good friends again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeepcoMJ Posted July 18, 2007 Share Posted July 18, 2007 I agree with the previous... tell him. flat out just say, hey, I don't think she's trustworthy, and I think she's doing things behind your back...then say that if anything happens, you're there for him and he can crash at your place. also tell him to consolidate his sh*t so she can't take any of it...cause chances are that's what the b*tch is planning, if she's as bad as you're saying. I've been THE ONE in the situation before, and my friend told me...I was blinded but was cautious. mad at him for awhile for even thinking that was possible, then realized the truth and managed to get away with all my assets and such intact..even the jewelry I had given her. BUT I did think that he was the one she was cheating with for a bit...he proved me otherwise and we're still good friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carnuck Posted July 18, 2007 Share Posted July 18, 2007 35% link! Did she post an ad up on http://www.onlinebootycall.com/r.php?ref=250438 ? (this is a real X rated site guys. Don't go there unless that's what you want) If she did, track her down and show him the link. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speed_racer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Share Posted July 18, 2007 well, for now, theres an email out to bob and tom... I tried last night... Hinted around.. but couldnt just tell him... as bad as I want him to know and feel bad that he doesnt know, its a hrd something to tell someone.... I know, I'm an @$$, but we'll see what happens... if I don't get a creative way figured out, ill just let him know no matter what.. Thanks for the differing opinions guys.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockhardzj Posted July 19, 2007 Share Posted July 19, 2007 bob and tom..."nothing like camel toe............" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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