Got it wrapped up.
My multimeter was reading around 11 volts at the rear lights once I found the correct two wires and bypassed the reverse switch(wired it in later after I got the issue figured out). But even though I was getting 11 volts at the plug the light would still not come on... so I started working back towards the front of the vehicle checking plugs and connections. When I got back to the fuse box under the dash it all looked fine and was reading correct voltage, but I noticed where the fuse plugs in that the prongs on top were a little farther apart than the ones on the bottom and they looked a little corroded. Well once I started messing with it one of the contact prongs in the in the fuse block fell out. figured that it was such a loose and poor connection that it showed voltage but couldn't support even the slightest amperage. don't really know, but once I wired in a separate fuse block and wired the reverse switch in it all worked good. So I'm back up and going! I have pictures of the stuff I did but I'm not sure how to post them yet, if I figure it out I'll post them back here for any future searchers.
Thanks everyone for suggestions and input. Also I never really found the right wiring diagram though I'm sure its out there. but the two wires I used from the four wire plug coming from the body and going to the transmission were the brown/blue stripe (comes from fuse block but at some point turns to just brown before entering the firewall, found it by way on continuity test) and then the brown/white stripe (goes to the rear lights). wired those two wires to the switch on the passenger side of the AX15.
Concluded.