i gotta blow off some steam......

[freakjeep93]

okay my spelling in school is almost exellent acually it is excellent, but my key board is too small and it is really hard to type on so i make alot of mistakes on the site also i had just been screamed at by dad about 5 mins before i wrote that so that was a factor to. I also think one of the problems I'm having is that i just recently moved in with my dad( divorced family) and he does not know hhow i learn yet he only knows i did really good in every thing but math last few years, but the reallity is i learn slow, I'm bad at first but i get it as i move along and he hasnt gotten that yet.

Hmm. I am more confused about how your folks can check grades from home. Are schools doing online grading and record keeping now. If so, why?

yea we have a program were marks and attendence is put on user profiles on a web site i don't know why ots needed though as a parent could see a bad grade and freak when the teacher is gunna say that he tryin really hard...

For me some kind of positive insentive always worked so much more. granted sometime you do need to be stern but what realy worked for me was if I did well then he would help me work or modify my truck.

 

i agree totally with the above statement .

[freakjeep93]

some thing too add is that i have no problem about them ( parents) checking my marks but i do have a problem with them going nuts at me as i check more than them and they know it so i believe that if they are freaking out they should go take a breather relax fo awile then come and talk to me about it when they are calmed down so they don't get me realy angry (for the lack of a apropriate work that works perfectly) so we don't end up fighting....

[Unglar]

I have a 13 year old and I get notices from his teachers by email. When it is something like this I ask him what is going on and usually his reply is that the teacher hasn't updated the data or something to that affect. I do beleive that he should be responsible for his grades and I do not check his homework every night. However, when he does bring home that 'F' (hopefully never) that will change.

 

My advice to you is to talk to your dad about it, the biggest problem between parents and kids is lack of communication. Unless you have brought home bad grades in the past there is no reason for your father to be getting on you about it. Try to get him to give you a chance to prove yourself. If he is not persuaded, then back off, getting into an argument is not going to help anything.

 

Good Luck!

[freakjeep93]

yea i should try that......might help but hes new to parenting me and hes learning that I'm kinda difficult.

me and my mom fought alot ( she acually hit me many times ) and now i have almost no respect for parents at times right now I'm living with dad till I'm 18 or making enough to live on my own then I'm movin out...

[dakal]

you are doing good. just keep communicating.

 

my father for the short time i lived with him took out his anger about my mother on me. so theres that.

 

why don't you let him read your question and our answers to you. it might help

[freakjeep93]

idk I'm just gunna try talking to him hes odd one min hes threatening to take the atv he doesnt own away from you the next hes the best dad ever . i don't know my klife is pretty screwed up

[Pete M]

I'm living with dad till I'm 18 or making enough to live on my own then I'm movin out...

 

that should be incentive enough for you to study harder. Believe it or not, right now you are building your resume. How else will you prove to your first prospective employer that you are a hard working individual who cares about his job? With poor grades that show you'd rather be out riding?

 

 

one min hes threatening to take the atv he doesnt own away from you, the next hes the best dad ever .

 

there will come a point in your life when you realize those are one in the same. :thumbsup:

[freakjeep93]

yea i know everything you say is true all i can do is work harder

[JeepcoMJ]

if you're not 18 yet, you don't own anything...it doesn't matter if you've paid for it.

[freakjeep93]

in canada if your 16 you can own a vehicle

[streetjeep2.5]

Hey, freakjeep93:

Yes, it is frustrating being in that time of life in between childhood and adulthood. It's a time of switching from thinking and acting like a child to thinking and acting like an adult. The older guys on here have done that, probably some with more success than others. ;) Some have gone through what your dad is trying to do to the best of his ability, not being experienced in this either, but is new to him as it was to us. You will, if you have a family, do the same. :brows: So, keep at it and believe it our not, you may do what I did. When 16 I got into a heated discussion with my mother. She told me I just did not understand. I told her I did! Then, at 23 (after being drafted into the Army, spending a year and a half in Vietnam, returning home, meeting the woman that is still my wife, and holding in my arms our first newborn child and thinking "man! this is for real! It's my responsibility to raise her") wife, baby and I were at my moms house (parent's divorced, dad an alcoholic). I asked if she remembered that conversation. She said, with a gleam in her eye, "yes." I put my arms around my mom (she was 5'1" and a dynamo), and said "I think I'm beginning to understand." She said, hugging me back, "I knew you would."

Jeepfreak, all will be ok. Start now with school work to develop a work ethic that will make people want to hire you or want you to do work for them if you start your own business, but never, NEVER put work before family, for it is what serves your family, and others.

Welcome to the beginning of adulthood! :banana:

[freakjeep93]

street jeep that was tyhe most inspirational thing to help me want to do better ive read so far

[streetjeep2.5]

Glad to help, jeepfreak.

Life is filled with good and bad things. While some things in like are truly bad, such as physical abuse, etc., and such things need to not exist, very often what we can think "bad" is only that way from our personal perspective because it interferes with what I think is good for me, but later find out it really was not bad, but for my good! :hmm: By it we are "trained." We learn and should grow from it. I can choose to let those things that were bordering on truly "bad", such as seeing my father become an alcoholic which led to a divorce and finally drink himself to death, and this meant in my teenage and young adult years I missed out on having a father as an active part of my life, be my "excuse" for the way I live my life (I am a victim! I have a syndrome!), or understand some of it may have come from him being in WWII and who knows what he experienced because he never talked about it or something else devastating, and without condoning it still forgive him, and learn what not to do as I raised my family. The list of such learning experiences that are great at "disciplining", that is, "training" me for my life can go on and on.

Take such things and let them teach you, striving to, using a military slogan, "be the best you can be!" In the mean time, knuckle down and be the best you can be at being, in this order, a son, a student, and a jeepfreak!