Fortunately I have the day off to work on this :D
Looking at the Renix Manual, my relay may be wired wrong. I don't see how that is possible, it doesnt look to ever have been tampered with. Nothing under the hood does. Where the wires come into the block that the relay plugs into, is sort of dirty and the dielectric grease or whatever it is, is there. According to the diagram in my Chiltons manual and now this Renix manual, it is not wired right. I thought that at the time I was looking at it and wondered how it could work. There may be a signal coming from the ECM after all and I did not detect it with the test light, I never even put a meter on it. I really think SOMEHOW it is not wired right, maybe it was driven after it stopped working and thats how the relay got dirty again after it was tampered with and it looks like it's unaltered. When I got the truck it did have a hot wire running back to the fuel pump but it was disconnected and they said they didnt know what was wrong with it. I'm suspecting the fiddled with the relay then found out it was the pump or something and then the relay was screwed up and they didnt know it so they bypassed it.... but who knows.
Somebody talk me through testing the ECM feed to the relay, and what color wire to check, I am fairly sure it's the orange/black wire... right? I have a multimeter.